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08/25/14 Are you All In?
Are you all in? Are you committed? Its a simple question. If you have to think about it the answer is likely no. I have been asked, what does being all in mean? How do I know if I am REALLY committed?
My definition of Commitment/All In: Pursuing your goal fiercely regardless of Circumstances. Whether things are going well, average, or poorly a true commitment entails constant pursuit of your goal despite internal or external factors.
1. Your goal is to be state champion. Whether you won a state title or were 0-33 last year you remain determined in pursuing your goal. You continue to find ways to improve and get closer to your goal each day- physically, technically, mentally, nutritionally, spiritually, emotionally, etc.
2. You commit to a challenging school/university. Whether school is a breeze or you are struggling to pass classes you refuse to give up or even slow down. You find a way to pass each class, even if you have to attend study hall, office hours, and spend countless hours learning new material.
3. Marriage. Maybe the perfect example. If you get married in the Church you exchange vows which symbolize commitment and being all in perfectly: In good times and bad, in sickness and health, till death do us part. Full commitment demands finding ways to improve and grow in challenging times.
It takes courage to go all in. It takes love and passion to go all in. And of course it takes hard work and extreme focus to go all in. But when all is said and done, the payoff for those willing to commit and go all in for a good cause or goal is tremendous. You have given yourself the best chance possible to succeed and have lived a goal/value centered life. Your goals or values will have dictated your behavior. This way whether you win, lose, or draw you have become the person you set out to be.
Go All in and Commit to Greatness!
07/11/14 10 things Parents can do to help their kids wrestle their Best
2. Verbally & Non-verbally communicate that you accept them, love them, & are proud of them NO MATTER WHAT. Reinforce winning, perfection, & success are much lower on your priority list than their fun, happiness, & enjoyment- you might be surprised how much more success this brings with it.
3. Praise their performance, not their outcome. You want to complement a kid for positive qualities like wrestling hard, taking chances, going for moves, staying positive, maintaining composure, never quitting, etc. The wrestler mastering these qualities will eventually be the one who succeeds. Complementing them too much for winning teaches them that winning is all that matters, and by default losing disappoints you.
4. Ask your kid permission before giving your opinion/criticism. Ie. Would you mind my opinion… (This gives the kid a sense of power during a sensitive interaction).
5. Don’t always talk about wrestling too much at home. Let your kid bring it up first most of the time. Let your home be a place of peace, positivity, & mental recovery.
6. Be positive & supportive. 9 out of 10 times, this is what your kid would like.
7. If you read the forums, newspapers, rankings, box scores, DON’T talk about it with your kid.
8. Know your role. Wrestlers wrestle. Coaches coach. Officials officiate. Parents parent. And there should be very little, if any, overlap between them.
9. Don’t make match/tournament day special. Your kids can sense this & it usually leads to them doing the same thing. You want them treating everything the same, so should you.
10. When in doubt- LAY OFF! This is tough to do, but it is often the right thing to do, especially when you know your kid is already serious about the sport.
Note: Most people, no matter how old they are, want to make their parents proud. People are keenly aware of their parent’s judgments & opinions of their parents more than anyone else. Even the highest level wrestlers I have worked with are sensitive to the verbal & non-verbal praise and critique of their parents. Know this- you have the power to help them or hurt them more than anyone else in the world.
Wrestling Mindset is doing revolutionary things! ONLY In our 12 Month Mindset Commitment, we include a full Parent & Coach Inventory which offers Mindset Guide for the Wrestler, their Coaches, & their Parents- no one is left out, nothing is left to chance. This is a small excerpt from the Parent Mindset Guide. For more information on the 12 Month Mindset Commitment Program, check it out here-
06/02/14 4 Observations from the World Team Trials
1. What you do OFF the mat is as important as what you do ON the mat. Our world team members live the LIFESTYLE that allows them to compete at their highest level. They stay out of trouble, live lives of FAITH, remain humble, and focus on the things most people neglect- nutrition, proper sleep and recovery, mental training, etc. Technique, drilling and live wrestling is important, but in reality it is a small part of a normal day. What are you doing the other 20 hours?
2. Our World Team members EXPECT to win GOLD medals. You never stumble upon greatness. You never win a tournament you don’t expect to win. The harsh reality though is that not everyone at the Trials was there to win it. Of course everyone wanted to win, but not everyone EXPECTED to win. The same thing goes with the Worlds and Olympics. No one whose goal is to Medal will win the tournament. Tony Ramos said it well in his interview this weekend. Too many wrestlers are setting their goals to medal in the Worlds or Olympics. All you are doing is limiting yourself. Why create a limit? If you are good enough to Medal you are good enough to WIN!
3. Score and keep scoring! This seems to be the success motto of champions. Holding leads is not going to work at the elite level. Wrestlers are too good at this level to not be able to find a way to score on a wrestler just looking to hold on. When you stop looking to score you are a sitting duck on the verge of disappointment. Think Metcalf, Burroughs, and Ruth. They are always on the attack regardless of the score.
4. A strong faith replaces fear and limits. Look further into our World Team members. They have a strong faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. I asked Tervel Dlagnev his mental edge when competing. He said, “my faith in Jesus Christ reminds me that I should have no fear but to fear the Lord so I go out and open up!” Once our fears are conquered we can compete at our highest level. When we have Faith we know that through Him all things are possible. This gives us the courage to dream big and pursue our goals fearlessly.
05/27/14 4 ways to become a more confident wrestler
Many wrestlers hold themselves back in matches and perform poorly under pressure. They lack Kyle Dake confidence that they can overcome any situation in a match. They lack David Taylor guts to pull the trigger when they see an opportunity.
Maybe Kyle Dake and David Taylor have it naturally. More than likely they have learned it over time. Here are some quick steps to building confidence:
1. Make list of your best past performances (practice or matches). This doesn’t necessarily mean only wins. Many wrestlers focus too much on what they need to improve and not enough on what they are good at. You need to look at this Confidence list often to KNOW you are a great wrestler.
2. Watch great performances of other wrestlers who use similar technique.Wrestlers need to KNOW that their technique works at their current level and at the highest level.
3. Make list of music, movies, quotes that make you feel good. The more motivated and happier you are, the more confident you will become.
4. Improve body language. When you act confident, you become more confident. This is a fact that has been studied significantly. Fake it until you make it.
04/07/14 Wrestling Mindset Step by Step Process
Step 1- Determining your Goals (both Short & Long Term) and creating an action plan. Remember, failing to plan is planning to fail.
03/27/14 Was Chris Perry Born to Win?
No one is born great are they? Of course not…well its sort of complicated. The great motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.”
03/17/14 Three reasons it doesn’t matter who you Wrestle
03/12/2014 NJ State Finals- The Slightest Margin for Error
Five finals matches went into overtime and 12 out of 14 matches were decided by three or less points. The margin for error was so small in almost every finals match and in so many other matches down in Atlantic City. What was the determining factor in each match? Was it strength, speed, technique, confidence, conditioning, nutrition, awareness, luck or another factor?
03/03/14 7 Keys to Success during Championship Weekend
1. Bombard yourself with positive thoughts and focus on your strengths. This is not the time to be critical of yourself. Dwelling on setbacks, losses, injuries or weaknesses will only hurt confidence. We recommend our athletes watch their highlight tapes and best performances leading up to championship weekend. Watch yourself execute technique and compete fearlessly. You are good enough to get the job done. See it, believe it, achieve it!
2. Ensure proper Energy Management. Now is the time to shorten workouts and avoid over training. The work is in the bank, don’t try to cram a ton of work in the last few weeks of the season. On match day try not to think about wrestling until you begin your warm up. Mental and Emotional stress (from thinking about your opponent and matches) will drain your battery even faster than Physical stress. In between rounds, don’t watch much wrestling. Jordan Burroughs admits that he does not watch a lot of wrestling when competing as this only makes him more nervous. Focus on rehydrating, refueling, and relaxing in between rounds. Listen to music, talk to people who will help you relax, get some fresh air, or do some deep breathing.
3. Visualize yourself warming up, competing, and executing technique in the arena. Be as vivid as possible, using as many senses as possible. Limit this to 10-15 minutes a day to avoid Mental and Emotional Stress from thinking too much about wrestling.
4. Act more Confident. The fastest way to feel more confident is to act more confident. Walk with purpose and swagger, control your breathing, and smile. Studies show that confidence is synthesized simply by acting more confidently.
5. Focus on winning positions and scoring points rather than on the match outcomes. If you get taken down to your back don’t panic and begin thinking about how you will win the match. Focus on scoring the next point and then the next point and on and on. Our effort and attitude are 2 things we always control. These levels should be sky high, while you relentlessly try to win each position and score the next point for the duration of the match. If you do this, good things tend to happen and the outcome will take care of itself.
6. Plan on winning each match 2 or 3 times. Bad call no takedown, that’s okay get another takedown. This philosophy is taken from Team USA head coach Zeke Jones. Never assume the calls will go your way. Take the refs out of the match and win the match again if you have to without complaining. You have a huge advantage if you take this attitude into each match, because your opponent likely will not.
7. Stay away from people who add pressure or cloud your mind. The further into the postseason the more coaches (club coach. personal coach, strength coach, mindset coach), family members and friends will be in attendance. Don’t feel obligated to talk to anyone in between each round. Less is more sometimes.
02/24/14 How Nervousness can help you wrestle better
The way I see it, you can look at nervousness one of two ways.
1- Nervousness means I am under pressure, afraid, shaky, etc.
2- Nervousness means I am spirited, full of adrenaline, human, focused, etc.
Great wrestlers and competitors perceive nervousness as the latter. They look at it from a positive light, as something that makes them stronger, faster, and sharper.
This past fall we asked a bunch of top wrestlers and coaches about their Mental Edge when they competed. All American Darren Schulman said his Mental Edge is that he knew he would wrestle his best in matches/tournaments because he had extra adrenaline. Cael Sanderson said that he and other great wrestlers looked at pre-match nervousness as being spirited and ready to go.
We all feel some nervousness before a match. Heroes and cowards have the same feelings/emotions. They simply perceive them and act differently. Both the hero and the coward feel nervous as they contemplate running into a burning building. The coward likely perceives the nervousness as fear and doesn’t approach the building. The hero may perceive these nerves as adrenaline or simply normal BUT acts anyway and runs in.
The bottom line- you have a choice. Perceive the nervousness as pressure and fear OR perceive the nervousness as being human, spirited and full of adrenaline. The choice is yours!
02/17/14 Turning Injuries & Losses into Success this Postseason
Maybe you suffered an injury this season that kept you inactive for a while, maybe you lost to several opponents that you know you are better than. None of this matters at this point. In fact, the only thing that matters and will directly effect your postseason success is the way that you interpret these events (injuries, losses, illness, etc.).
Whether the loss or the injury ACTUALLY is the best thing for you and your career is irrelevant. All that REALLY matters is how you interpret the situation. When I worked on Wall Street there was a common expression- Perception is 90% of Reality. Without a doubt this applies to wrestling as well. The way you perceive an event is 90% of reality.
If you believe a loss or an injury made you better or stronger, then it probably did or will. Conversely, if you think a loss or an injury is going to hold you back or hurt your performance, than it probably will. Injuries, losses, and other “setbacks” are only negatives if you view them as such.
02/09/14 6.5 Ways Wrestlers Kill Postseason Performance
02/03/14 David Taylor’s Greatest Asset
What is the Magic Man’s greatest asset?
01/28/14 Top 10.5 Tournament Mindset Tips
01/20/14 Are you Confident enough to Win in March?
Remember, a Confident wrestler is a better wrestler!
01/12/14 20 Mindset Tips to tell your Wrestlers
1. Constantly look to score. Focus on putting points on the board, not winning the match
01/06/14 How to Avoid the Midseason Funk/Blues
12/23/13 Beast of the East/Iowa-Penn St Mindset Lesson-Keep Scoring
The biggest Mindset mistake I saw this weekend while attending the Beast of the East was that guys were shutting down their Offense way too early.
1. Keep scoring points in the 3rd period if you have a lead, always focus on your offense.
2. Don’t leave it in the hands of the ref or your opponent.
3. Impose YOUR will on your opponent. Your Offense!Tip for Coaches-
1. Recognize/applaud wrestlers who continue their offensive attacks after gaining leads.
2. Don’t make it ALL about the Win. If a wrestler Wins a match but holds onto a lead for a considerable time, let them know that they wrestled NOT to lose and this is unacceptable.
3. Ditch the “A win is a win” Mentality. It will hurt them more than it helps them.